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Freezing my eggs ‘helped me after rape’ – BBC News

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Image caption Winnie at a red carpet movie happen before their own lives changed

At the age of 29, Winnie Li was living in London and enjoying a successful occupation as a movie farmer, working with movie star like Daniel Craig.

She had been to the Oscars where a movie she had helped to produce had been nominated.

But in 2008, everything there is came to a halting. One Saturday afternoon, while hiking in Northern Ireland, she was raped.

She adds it is something she will never forget and the emotional affect stays with her.

She told the BBC: “It was awful. It started from the working day, being the person or persons I’d always been, to the next – I felt like I was gutted like a fish, unable to feel any pleasure or hope.

“My insides were torn out. I was a eggshell of the person or persons I’d been before.”

‘Path to motherhood’

Her perpetrator – a 15 -year-old stranger to whom she had been holding directions – was caught.

Winnie then lived in a constant country of anxiety as she waited for the trial.

She told the BBC: “I wasn’t affection passions. I was just in stupor for months.”

Winnie stood severe hollow, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. She was too scared to go out and had frequented panic attacks.

She suggested: “I started from being a well-adjusted 29 -year-old to find like I couldn’t function anymore.”

This experience affected her dating life.

“All my other friends were continuing on with their jobs, personal lives, getting married and having kids.

“And I exactly wasn’t there – I was on a quite different trajectory.”

Last year, she found herself single, aged 37.

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She suggested: “I was at that age where people warn you about your birthrate plummeting off and I wasn’t anywhere further on the path to being a mother.”

It was this realisation that contributed her to the decision to freeze her eggs.

She had two rounds of egg freezing. And though doctors managed to harvest some viable eggs, there were not enough for her deemed to be a viable guarantee hope.

She suggested: “A lot of status of women describe freezing eggs as an entitling situation. In some behaviors it’s not. I expended millions of pounds.”

She adds she cannot yield a third round.

Winnie included: “It’s not inevitably contributed me hope but it’s contributed me a sense of an option to see if those eggs can become a child.”

“I’ll always know I have at least done the best I could in this situation.”

Winnie has written a novel, Dark Chapter, inspired by her know-how of being raped and the journey to convalescence.

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Image caption Winnie has started hiking again

She is also working on a doctorate at the London School of Economics, exploring how social media is countenancing crime survivors to tell their stories.

“I learn every day from other women how difficult it is for them to introduced their lives back together.

“But I’m hoping by sharing these fibs, we can understand how we can start to mend from this kind of trauma.”

Read more: http :// www.bbc.co.uk/ bulletin/ health-4 0104874

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